EFT Tapping Therapy

EFT tapping looks a ridiculously simple process on the surface. By lightly and repetitively tapping certain key points on your body, while at the same time repeating phrases around the issue you are dealing with, you can restore your body-mind to a natural and healthy state. It is such a simple process that many find it hard to believe that it could have such a positive effect on our mental and physical health.

Fortunately, there are now many scientific studies that support the veracity of tapping (these are discussed in other articles on this site). Even more powerful than these are the thousands of testimonials from all over the world that testify to the power of the technique. From correcting difficult and debilitating health conditions to finally getting rid of phobias, tapping can be used on a whole variety of conditions and problems.

Some people report healing mental, emotional, physical and spiritual issues that have existed for years, conditions that haven’t responded to any other treatments. Sometimes the effect is instant and dramatic but for others it is a more gradual awareness that the problem has receded and is no longer an issue. Either way, healing has taken place.

The simplicity of the tapping protocol has led to a well known ‘problem’ for EFT therapists. Called the Apex Effect, patients often totally discount the role of EFT in their healing! Yes, they have got better but it couldn’t possibly have been that simple tapping stuff that made them well. As frustrating as this is, most experienced therapists will just smile sweetly and be glad that healing has taken place, after all:

When the destination is in sight the pathway has no meaning.

The Tapping Protocol

A simple Internet search will turn up many variations on the tapping protocol that I am about to share with you. Please don’t be concerned about this; as the tapping therapies have evolved people have come up with their own variations around the same central theme. EFT itself is in fact a variation on Thought Field Therapy (or TFT!) developed by American psychologist Roger Callahan. You can spend a lot of time, effort and money learning these systems and get exactly the same results as using the simple protocol outlined below. 

There are three distinct steps to applying EFT effectively:

  • setting the outcome for the session
  • the location and sequence of the tapping points
  • the script that accompanies the tapping actions

Let’s begin with preparation ….

Setting the Outcome

Stephen Covey, best selling author of ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’, said that we should always begin with the end in mind. The set-up phase is important in that it sets the outcome for our EFT sessions. It consists of three parts:

  1. Clearly identifying the situation that causes you stress, pain, or anxiety.
  2. Identifying the negative emotion that this generates in you, and
  3. Identifying the positive emotion or state that you would want to experience instead.

Let’s work through a simple example to help clarify this process.

Suppose you have to make a speech or presentation in front of your work colleagues. For you this is your worst nightmare. Like so many people the thought of public speaking is your biggest fear. That is the situation.

The emotion you feel is abject fear, but try and be as specific as possible. Where is this fear located in your body? Is it a tightening in your stomach, or your chest? Is it that you are fearful of making a fool of yourself, perhaps by forgetting your words or not being able to answer questions? Really think about how and where the emotion manifests itself for you.

Finally, identify the feeling you would like instead. Perhaps it is a feeling of confidence, of being in control, and of people respecting your authority and opinion. Again, be as specific as possible.

With a little practice you will become very good at understanding and working through the set-up phase. Read some of the examples on this site to help you. Remember, EFT can be used on pretty well anything that is bothering you so use your imagination as you apply the three stages of the set-up.

EFT Tapping Points

The points are tapped in the following sequence:

The Karate Chop point on the side of the hand (KC). This is a stand alone point used at the start of the tapping.

Then …….

The eyebrow point (EB), just above the tear duct on the inside of the eye.

The temple region, just to the side of the eye itself (SE).

The small indentation you will feel on your upper cheek, just below the centre of the eye (UE).

The philtrum under your nose (UN).

The middle of the upper chin, just below your bottom lip (UC).

The collar bone point, one inch across from the bony hollow at the base of the collar bone (CB).

Under the arm pit on the side of the body. For a man it is level with the nipple line and for a woman it is where the bra line would fall (UA).

Finally, the very top of the head (TH)

Each point is tapped with the pads of the first and second fingers, 3-4 times before moving onto the next point. The tap should be firm but not so hard it’s painful!

Having set our outcome and understood the location and sequence of the tapping points we will move onto the script that holds everything together. There are 5 stages to this.

The 5 Step Tapping Script

Step 1

Tap the Karate Chop point continuously while saying:

‘Even though I feel (name the negative emotion you identified in the set-up phase) because of (name the situation) …. I completely love and accept myself’

Repeat this three times straight through.

Step 2

Tap 3-4 times on each of the points in the sequence outlined above. As you move through the points keep saying:

‘I feel ………. (name the negative emotion).’

Repeat this sequence twice.

Step 3

Tap 3-4 on each of the points in the sequence outlined above, while saying:

‘I now choose to let go of this …… (name the negative emotion).’

Repeat this sequence twice.

Step 4

Tap 3-4 on each of the points in the sequence outlined above, while saying:

‘My body is safe letting go of this ….. (name the negative emotion).’

Repeat this sequence twice.

Step 5

Tap 3-4 times on every point, while saying:

‘I choose now to feel ……. (name the positive emotion you identified in the set-up phase).’

Repeat this sequence twice.

Finally, take a couple of deep full breaths.

Overcoming internal objections

Now you’ve read that through I can almost hear some of you saying ‘That’s stupid, I’m not saying that!’ In particular, people seem to have a problem with the Step 1 script where you say ‘………I completely love and accept myself’! Let’s just think about this for a moment.

There is a well known tendency we humans have to be far harder on ourselves than ever we would be on someone else. As a parent I know I can show infinite understanding and love for my children in almost any circumstance, but regularly beat myself up for a relatively minor screw up. Perhaps we know ourselves too well!

One thing is certain, we will not be able to move on from a situation until we completely accept the person that got us into that situation – us! We simply do have to love and accept the person we are to become the person we want to be. However hard the words seem to be initially please work with them.

One of my teachers is Dr John Demartini – if you haven’t come across him I would thoroughly recommend you searching him out. I consider him to have a real grasp of the human situation and would put him near the top of my formative influences. He uses a lot of affirmations to help us re-programme the sub-conscious mind. One such affirmation seems very apt here:

No matter what you have done, or not done, you are worthy of love.

Learn to love and accept yourselves fully. It is the basis of all healing.

Now find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and try tapping for yourself. Maybe start with something fairly basic (perhaps a fear of spiders or something similar) and get used to the tapping protocol before moving onto more serious challenges. Give yourself time and be prepared to repeat the process. If you work with the technique you will be rewarded.